Resources to help you care for children

These resources can help you care for your children when you separate.

Parents’ guide to caring for children after separation

This booklet has lots of useful information and tips to help you put your children first and work out how they’ll be cared for when you separate.

Putting your children first [PDF, 2.8 MB]


These factsheets have more information to help you when you separate:

Children need parents who understand what they’re going through [PDF, 584 KB]

Children need parents to protect them from conflict [PDF, 340 KB]

Children need parents to help them with the tough times [PDF, 584 KB]

Making arrangements for your children [PDF, 919 KB]

Getting on as separated parents [PDF, 583 KB]

How to work with new partners and step-families [PDF, 584 KB]

Changeovers and helping your children move between two homes [PDF, 589 KB]

Tips for family/whānau when there’s been a separation involving children [PDF, 592 KB]

Answering difficult questions from children [PDF, 599 KB]

Making a parenting plan

A parenting plan will help you work through and record decisions like:

  • day-to-day care of your children
  • arrangements for contact if you don’t share day-to-day care
  • other parenting issues, such as after school activities and medical treatment.

Making a Parenting Plan workbook [PDF, 1.9 MB]

Children’s guide to separation

This booklet helps answer kids’ questions about what happens to them when their parents break up.

Children’s guide to separation [PDF, 3.8 MB]

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